Motherhood is filled with challenges and the message that seems to prevail is that we’ll get through it. What?? Motherhood isn’t an AP Calculus test or a career you retire from. You don’t get through motherhood, you learn how to thrive…
– during pregnancy.
– while caring for a newborn.
– while managing work (inside or outside of the home) and family life.
– while homeschooling.
I know it’s hard. But, here’s the thing. You can do hard.
Even now, after all you’ve overcome, you are still standing! You are the embodiment of strength.
My goal is to create content to help you cultivate confidence as you prepare for birth, organize family life, and manage homeschooling on your own terms. It’s a journey that is sure to be messy, fun, and emotional. ♥
Who am I?
I’m Tiffany
I’M A WOMAN
I haven’t always been interested in supporting pregnant women and moms. In fact, there was a time when I didn’t want to be a mom (gasp). It’s true.
When I was sixteen I stood on the outside of my sister’s hospital room and listened as she gave birth to my stillborn nephew. It was my first experience with pregnancy and it was awful!
For years after that experience, I declared I’d never have a child and I came up with several valid reasons but honestly…I was afraid:
-I was afraid of loss.
-I was afraid of not being enough.
-I was afraid my life goals would need to be diminished.
Thankfully, my heart opened and God had plans for my life bigger and better than the ones I planned for myself.
I’M A MOM
In 2017, I allowed myself to get pregnant and it led to a cascade of unlikely events.
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- I birthed an eight-pound baby with no medical interventions.
- I quit my job as a newborn screening chemist to be a stay-at-home-mom.
- I started this little blog that has bloomed into an online business.
- I had a miscarriage.
- I fell in and out of love with my body several times.
- I’ve questioned my parenting decisions.
- I removed dairy from my diet.
- I’ve re-assessed what it means to be a wife and partner.
- I’ve learned to thank myself for all the thankless roles we moms assume.
Ultimately, I continue to create space to be new versions of myself and I invite other new moms to do the same.
I’m convinced that our lives as moms make us extraordinarily prepared to manage the unexpected triumphs and challenges of life.
I’M EDUCATED
Education:
Associates in Science
Bachelor of Arts in Psychology
Bachelor of Science in Biology with Minor: Chemistry
Master of Family Life and Youth Development
Trained Doula (Not certified)
I’M LEARNING
Experiences:
Teacher
Lab Scientist (Toxicology, Molecular, Food Science)
Newborn Screening Chemist
Non-medicated birth
Miscarriage
Mom/Spouse
I VALUE
I VALUE YOUR RIGHT TO BIRTH ON YOUR TERMS
Birth is an unforgettable experience. Women should be given the opportunity to be educated and to use their knowledge to make informed decisions that support the best possible outcome for their child. I respect every woman’s right to decide how they want to experience their birth, as long as the safety and health of the baby is the priority at all times.
I BELIEVE YOU SHOULD DEFINE ‘HAVING IT ALL’ FOR YOURSELF
We’re constantly told whether or not “we can have it all”. Well. When you define having it all for yourself, you realize it doesn’t look at all like what we are told it should look like and that’s okay.
THIS IS WHAT I KNOW FOR SURE
- Motherhood is an opportunity. I was told it’d be a burden.
- Not every great mom gives birth. (Dear moms who’ve come to have children without giving birth – your mom light doesn’t shine any less bright).
- Not every mom gets to care for their child. I know pregnancy loss and I know that love for children who aren’t earthside isn’t any less strong.
- You aren’t here by accident, you are here by design.
FAQS
Why blog about pregnancy and motherhood?
I write about pregnancy and motherhood because of the transformation that happened in my life when I decided to stop letting fear control my choices. I went after the family I wanted. I did it scared and I’m winning. I believe other women can too!
Motherhood is the greatest gift that I have been given and my goal with this site is to help one woman at a time know that pregnancy doesn’t need to be scary (with reliable information) and motherhood is an opportunity (your life isn’t over and you can still pursue your dreams).
What has been the most challenging part of becoming a parent?
The transition of leaving my job to become a stay-at-home-mom was challenging. I’ve had to figure out how to shift my identity and embrace a new system of values that didn’t rely on what I did and how much I earned.
What is the most exciting part of parenting?
Watching what was once a mustard seed grow, learn, and thrive is an absolute joy. I watch my daughter and am constantly amazed that I grew her inside of me.
Also, my journey as a mom motivated me to create this amazing platform called Damn Good Mom where I get to be in community with other moms and build a home-based business. It’s crazy the life I never imagined is better than the one I planned for myself. God truly has a sense of humor.
Why the name Damn Good Mom?
I struggled to think of a name that captured exactly what I wanted this website to be, but I always wanted it to reflect my number one goal and the goal that most other moms have too. If you haven’t guessed yet, that goal is to be a Damn Good Mom. I know I’ll never be perfect but I can wake up each day and try to be the best mom I can be for my kid and you can too!
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