Meet The Mom That Knows “There’s Always A Way!”

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The best part of this blog is the amazing moms that selflessly share their insider knowledge. Sarah Wall of Raising Royalty is the mom you want in your ear with the going gets rough. 

 

She believes, there is always a way and with 6 children I absolutely believe her! Meet Sarah!

 

1. How many children do you have? Share their gender and ages.
I have 6 children, all girls. Ages 14, 9, 8, 6, 5 & 7 months.
2. What is your favorite mantra or mom quote?
My motto is “There’s always a way. You just need the right support.”
3. What do you love about being a mom?
What’s not to love? Baby kisses, puppy pile hugs, amazing pictures, and all the first-times! I even love hearing “Mom, mom, mom, mom, mom..” ad nauseum. My 5-year-old comes up and tells me, “Mom, you’re soo pretty,” and it just melts me. My 8 yr old shares my curiosity and love of learning. My 14 yr old and I have this huge love of books, and we share great stories. My 9 yr old sings to me, and it’s perfect. My 6 yr old is the sweetest, cuddliest little teddy bear… I adore being a parent. I can’t imagine life without children.
4. How would you describe your pregnancy? Did you have the birth experience you wanted?
My pregnancies have been varied.

  1. My first one was .. difficult, with some traumatic experiences.
  2. The next one was textbook perfect, right down to the delivery. I was in and out of the hospital in 6 hours.
  3. My 3rd one — I had the movie-like water breaking experience, which was kind of neat.
  4. My 4th baby, I got to deliver at home, and the postpartum period was just the way I wanted it. My newborn and I had a 3-hour nap snuggled together, right after she was born.
  5. My 5th baby surprised me with labor. You’d think after 4 babies, I would have realized that I was in labor, but it was almost the last minute before I realized she was coming.
  6. And my 6th baby.. well, we were minutes away from a c-section. But we made it.
5. How has being a mom changed you? What is one thing you did not expect to happen when you became a mom?
Being a mom made me more organized. I’m systematic about everything now, where before I became a parent, I was much less prepared about anything. Now, I plan for everything. It makes life easier, knowing that I’m ready for anything. I can be spontaneous now, without stressing.
6. What part of motherhood has been most challenging?
Special needs parenting has been the most challenging.

 

My 2nd daughter is developmentally disabled. She wasn’t able to communicate with me until she was about 5, and before that she just screamed. Not tantrum screaming, though I’m sure there was some of that. But what I didn’t know what how much sensory input overloaded her, and caused her physical pain. She would shriek for hours, and there was nothing I could do. I remember one day, she was about 2 years old, and I wrapped her up in a comforter, and sat on the floor with my back against a wall, while my 6 yr old and my 9-month-old played in the other room. My 2 yr old was screaming, inconsolable, unable to tell me what was wrong. I sat there and cried. I didn’t know what to do but hold her.

7. Who or what has been most influential on your parenting style?
My grandmother has been the most influential.

 

She was a common sense type person, who saw things with a logic that most people don’t seem to have. She is also extremely perceptive, and she showed me how to see the root causes before jumping to a conclusion. That has saved me from making so many mistakes with my kids. I’ve been able to meet needs and be empathetic, rather than irritated and disciplining them for things that weren’t their fault. For example, recently my 5-year-old came to be upset and crying. At first, I thought it was because I had told her it was time to leave, and she didn’t want to stop playing. But I noticed her nose was red and a little bit swollen, and I realized that she was crying because she’d hurt herself. So rather than get all irritated because she was throwing a tantrum, I comforted her, and she was calmer a whole lot quicker.

8. How did becoming a mom change your perspective on work-life balance?
Becoming a mom has shown me that balance is an illusion. Kids don’t grow a little bit every day. They go thru spurts and phases. They eat tons and then all of a sudden they’ve outgrown their shoes and sprouted 3 inches, seemingly overnight. It’s the same thing with every other area in life. Things go in spurts and phases. Some weeks I have to concentrate on work and ignore the household chores. Some weekends, we spend the entire weekend doing the laundry. It’s just a matter of priorities, not balance.
9a. What is the best advice you have received and would like to pass along to your child or other moms?
When my oldest was about 1, my mother told me to pay attention to how she was like as a toddler and preschooler. Because I would notice similar patterns and issues when she was a preteen and teenager. What my daughter was like at 1, 2 & 3, would be how she would be like at 11, 12 and 13. Now that she’s 14, I can say mom was so right. We had the same tantrums and meltdowns, the same attitudes and boundary tests, .. and the same solutions. I found that my then-12 year old needed just as many naps as when she was 2 years old. And that snack time often solved moodiness. And sometimes you just needed to redirect and distract rather than discipline, because my 13-year-old could be as irrational as a 3-year-old. Knowing this made those preteen years a heck of a lot easier.
9c. Briefly, share why you are a Damn Good Mom.
I’m a single mom. I homeschool my children, work from home, and I do it all on my own. Their father sees the kids on every other weekend, but I have the majority of the care and the sole responsibility for them. I’m a Damn Good Mom because I do it on my own, and my kids are great kids. They are kind, they are smart, they are talented, they help out others. I get compliments on their behaviour all the time. And I’m damn proud of my children! We are a family, we have close tight bonds, and we work together to accomplish amazing things.
10. Help out our new and expecting moms. What do you wish you knew before becoming a mom?
I wish I knew that my instincts could and can be trusted.

 

There are tons of parenting books, blogs, magazines, and experts out there. But honestly, you’re the mom. You know your kids best. Don’t ignore your gut feelings. They may save your kid’s life! And fight for it.When my special needs child was 9 months old, she wasn’t sitting up by herself yet. I was concerned and I took her to my doctor. And the doctor told me she was just a little late, and she’d catch up eventually. Even if she was a few months behind, by the time she was 4, no one would notice the difference. I wish I hadn’t listened, and I’d pushed for more assessment. Because at 4, my daughter barely said more than 10 words and wasn’t toilet trained yet. At 7, she had the language use of a 2-year-old. I wish I had pushed for more help earlier. And maybe.. maybe things would be different? It’s one of my biggest regrets.

Where can curious moms find you on social media?
Find Sarah at 
http://www.raisingroyalty.ca where she blogs and   www.xerasupport.com where she works from home as a small business consultant & virtual assistant. 

 

 

Gah! I’m speechless! This mom has 6 children works from home and blogs! I am overwhelmed with appreciation for the information she shared here. Motherhood isn’t about perfection and it’s refreshing to hear an experienced mom share that our instincts as parents should be trusted.

 

Sarah, Thank you for sharing!

 

If you loved what Sarah had to say (I did) about motherhood and parenting, let her know in the comments or head over to her website Raising Royalty to learn more. I’m inspired. Are you?

 

Have you had to trust your instincts as a mom? Do you know that there is always a way?